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"What part of no don't you understand?"

4/7/2017

 
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     For all you playas from the Himalayas. Macks from way back standing next to a pink Cadillac who think you're all that.  The mere fact that you still think those lines work or are still relevant to this day and age, lets everyone know just how lame you are.  
     For every woman who has been the audience to these tired "pick-up lines," especially from a married man, No Means No.  I understand there is a generation of women who say no, but really mean yes.  At least that's the lie you're telling your boys and yourself. I understand there is a generation of women who have made their millions from Sugar Daddys, extorting money, cars, body enhancements and clothes from married men by threatening to tell their wives.  I think the mistake on that one is, do you really think your wife is that stupid not to know?  She may not admit it out loud, but believe me when I tell you, a wife can smell the scent of infidelity before the car ever turns down the street to come home.  You think a shower or bath is going to hide the stench of your betrayal?
    So Husbands, if you still want to fight for your marriage, stop paying the Blackmailers. Wives, if you still want to fight for your marriage, stop paying the Blackmailers.  You can't take care of your Home and the Streets.  Even if you can, stop it. 
   The blatant disrespect for marriages is unsettling.  It's not getting better.  It's getting worse. Just because there are a generation of people that have accepted the notion of "Boys will be Boys" and "While the Husband's away, the Wife will play," doesn't mean that holds true for ALL marriages.  This is NOT a game.  This is NOT your fake life you portray on social media. This is Real Life with Real People.  The sooner you realize that, the better off you will be.  The saying goes, if you want respect, you have to earn it.  Well in this case, respect is being demanded.  Stop going through life thinking that when God made the male human anatomy that he only made one for you and that yours is the largest and most sought after.  One thing that is for sure, after you have gone through life giving it away so carelessly, there couldn't be much left to be desired anyway.
     For those of you who are on the slow bus, here are the top 10 signs that No Means No:
  1. When you find out she's married.
  2. When she finds out you're married.
  3. When you're trying to capture her attention and she looks right through you.
  4. When you speak and she bows her head or looks the other way.
  5. When you enter a room, she leaves the room.
  6. When you try to be flashy and she doesn't even blink.
  7. When she ignores you completely.
  8. When you sit down next to her and she exchanges seats.
  9. When she speaks to your wife, but doesn't speak to you.
  10. When her face is obviously basking in the afterglow of some amazing intimacy shared only between her husband and herself.
     Like the Chef said in previous post, "Leave your neighbor's ass alone."  Stop coveting what your neighbor has.  What is for you, is for you.  What is NOT for you, is NOT for you. No Means No.

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    The Chef and The Ref, as we are more affectionately called, are just two individuals who God joined together in the Spirit and then in the Natural to walk through the challenges of  life together.  We have been married for 27 years and have four amazing children.  We get many calls, text and emails asking us questions about a variety of topics as it relates to marriage.  This blog was inspired by the Holy Spirit and an answer to the growing demand of couples who inquire about our experiences in marriage as it relates to their own.  We do not make any claims of being anything more than two sinners, saved by grace who wanted to give couples an opportunity to have safe conversations that will make their marriage stronger. The Chef and The Ref are both licensed and ordained Ministers in the Gospel of Jesus Christ who wanted to create a safe platform for married couples to converse about a variety of topics.  

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