When you got married, you both thought it was going to be sunshine, champagne and roses all the time. Married Couples have those days, but what about those rainy days? The mornings you wake up and say, "Sweetheart, I really love you, but I really don't like you right now." There is no full proof formula for withholding the rain. It is not a matter of if the rain will come, it's a matter of when. And when those days come, you must have the ability to say, "I've got you covered."
Now covering is defined as a thing used to cover something else, typically in order to protect or conceal it; a layer of something that covers something else. Have you ever been talking to someone and they say, "I've got you covered." I now wonder do they fully understand the degree to what they are committing to. Protecting, concealing or covering something or in this case someone else, takes committment. Do you have what it takes? Afterall, coverings typically are made to weather not just rain, but any storm. In the sense of a Spiritual Covering, take a look at what some artist depict as the Spiritual Umbrella of Marriage in the illustration below:
This illustration is very clear. Christ is the Head of the Family which covers, protects and conceals the Husband, Wife and their Children. The Husband is to cover his Wife and Children by protecting and providing for his family. The Wife is to cover her Children and Manage the Affairs of the Home. You would think this would be simple, but my question would be, what exactly does this process look like in action? Have you ever heard the expression, "I can show you better than I can tell you?"
By looking at the above illustration you think that the Wife does not have the task of covering her Husband. Wrong, one of the ways a Wife covers her Husband is in Prayer. Wives can bring good to your husband through prayer, prayer for his integrity, his strengths, his weaknesses, his walk, his work – for every aspect of His life.
Ephesians 5:21-33 MSG gives specific instructions for the Christian households, it says, "Out of respect for Christ, be courteously reverent to one another. Wives, understand and support your husbands in ways that show your support for Christ. The husband provides leadership to his wife the way Christ does to his church, not by domineering but by cherishing. So just as the church submits to Christ as he exercises such leadership, wives should likewise submit to their husbands. Husbands, go all out in your love for your wives, exactly as Christ did for the church—a love marked by giving, not getting. Christ’s love makes the church whole. His words evoke her beauty. Everything he does and says is designed to bring the best out of her, dressing her in dazzling white silk, radiant with holiness. And that is how husbands ought to love their wives. They’re really doing themselves a favor—since they’re already “one” in marriage.
No one abuses his own body, does he? No, he feeds and pampers it. That’s how Christ treats us, the church, since we are part of his body. And this is why a man leaves father and mother and cherishes his wife. No longer two, they become “one flesh.” This is a huge mystery, and I don’t pretend to understand it all. What is clearest to me is the way Christ treats the church. And this provides a good picture of how each husband is to treat his wife, loving himself in loving her, and how each wife is to honor her husband."
Simply put, where my husband is weak, I am strong for the both of us. When he is in the Service of The Lord, I stand beside him to assist with spiritual warfare through prayer. I do not allow him to become entrapped in situations that would bring disgrace and dishonor to his ministry. Remember, it's never about us. It's always about hindering the ministry. The devil is always after proving what is holy and just, wrong.
Covering my Husband means learning the inner and outer workings of the ministry or business that God has entrusted us with and to be readily available to assist in any area that needs it. Covering my Husband means standing by his side, through thick and thin. When times are good and when times are bad. Covering my Husband means allowing him to become the Man that God has designed him to be without emasculating his efforts. I am my Husband's biggest Cheerleader, no one can cheer louder than me for him. When he is confused, he lays his head in my lap to bring clarity to this thoughts. When his body is tired or in pain, he can cuddle with me to help soothe his aches.
Covering my Husband means, I know his deepest darkest secrets and I still love him through them anyway without exposing them. Covering my Husband means not only covering his faith, but also covering his freak so that he doesn't have to look outside our marriage bed to be fulfilled. Covering my Husband means exercising wisdom and discerning of spirits to offer sound counsel when an answer must be given. Wives, sometimes you have to give an unapologetic "Anointed No." That advice was passed on to me by someone who is wiser than she thinks and if you're reading this, Thank you.
And when it's all said and done, he is confident in my ability to be strong for our family by faith with the help of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ..."Husband, I've got you covered."
The Chef and The Ref, as we are more affectionately called, are just two individuals who God joined together in the Spirit and then in the Natural to walk through the challenges of life together. We have been married for 27 years and have four amazing children. We get many calls, text and emails asking us questions about a variety of topics as it relates to marriage. This blog was inspired by the Holy Spirit and an answer to the growing demand of couples who inquire about our experiences in marriage as it relates to their own. We do not make any claims of being anything more than two sinners, saved by grace who wanted to give couples an opportunity to have safe conversations that will make their marriage stronger. The Chef and The Ref are both licensed and ordained Ministers in the Gospel of Jesus Christ who wanted to create a safe platform for married couples to converse about a variety of topics.