The Red Heels are to serve as a sexy but subtle reminder from a wife to her husband of a passionate, intimate relationship that only the two of them share. Marriage was ordained by God from the beginning of creation, but do most people understand exactly what that really means?
The Chef and I had to learn through trial and error what the bible meant when it stated, “And Adam knew Eve his wife; and she conceived…” Genesis 4:1 after asking several couples, no one could give us insight on this topic. It is considered taboo… good girls… wait no, church girls don’t ask for guidance about such things. So my husband and I was left to trying to figure out why the marriage bed is undefiled and what in the world does undefiled mean? I believe the Holy Spirit led us to the point of reference of the word “knew” in the bible. Chef will expand more on “undefiled” in our next post.
Just to be clear, let’s examine the word “knew” for a moment. There are several definitions of the word knew. Here are just a few:
4. be acquainted with (a thing, place, person, etc.), as by sight, experience, or report:
5. to understand from experience or attainment (usually followed by how before an infinitive):
6. to be able to distinguish, as one from another:
7. Archaic. to have sexual intercourse with. Courtesy of www.dictionary.com April 8, 2016.
When my husband sees me wearing red heels, it gives him a sense of certainty that I am his and he is mine. It commits to our memory that there is no one better than me for him and no one better than him for me. We are both aware of each other’s thoughts and feelings. The red heels are a reminder of intimate experiences that only he and I share. And from those experiences, we have attained a better understanding of one another physically, mentally and spiritually. When a husband and wife really know one another, the relationship becomes distinctive. To coin a phrase, “this ain’t that.” Imposters are not welcomed. Neither him nor I can be replaced or substituted with someone else.
Lastly, "knew" means to have sexual intercourse with. I believe the author made sex the last definition on purpose because being intimate with one another as husband and wife is more than physical intimacy or even those infamous red heels.
The Chef and The Ref, as we are more affectionately called, are just two individuals who God joined together in the Spirit and then in the Natural to walk through the challenges of life together. We have been married for 27 years and have four amazing children. We get many calls, text and emails asking us questions about a variety of topics as it relates to marriage. This blog was inspired by the Holy Spirit and an answer to the growing demand of couples who inquire about our experiences in marriage as it relates to their own. We do not make any claims of being anything more than two sinners, saved by grace who wanted to give couples an opportunity to have safe conversations that will make their marriage stronger. The Chef and The Ref are both licensed and ordained Ministers in the Gospel of Jesus Christ who wanted to create a safe platform for married couples to converse about a variety of topics.