Matthew 13:45-46 KJV - "Again, the kingdom of heaven is like unto a merchant man, seeking goodly pearls: Who, when he had found one pearl of great price, went and sold all that he had, and bought it."
The pearl itself is a beautiful, single entity, formed through suffering in the heart of the oyster that is normally put on display. Merchants will go to great lengths to find the most perfect pearl because they understand its value. Merchants and Consumers alike are willing to pay an enormous price for the perfect pearl.
According to history and myths, pearls are symbolic of wisdom gained through experience. Pearls are well-known for their calming effect and they have a way of bringing about balance to your body. Myths say that pearls keep your children safe while strengthening your relationships. It is also believed that pearls are symbolic of the wearer's loyalty, generosity, integrity and purity. Despite the many different things pearls are said to symbolize, the most common is purity and loyalty of its wearer. This is one reason why more brides are choosing to wear them on their wedding day.
The Pearl of Great Price made me think about Married Couples in Ministry. Being the wife of a Minster for 28 years has not always been easy. It is even more challenging when both you and your Spouse are called to the Ministry. My attention was directed to Priscilla and Aquila who were Christian missionaries under the leadership of the Apostle Paul. They lived, worked, and traveled with the Apostle Paul who described them as his "fellow workers in Christ Jesus." They are mentioned six times in the Bible in four different books of the New Testament, always named as a couple and never individually. Whether one or both of you are called to the Ministry, Husbands and Wives must work together as a unit, collaboration and partners in Ministry.
Wives, we are Pearls of Great Price where God has chosen each of us specifically for our Husbands. Each marriage with a partnership anointed by God to work together in Ministry for His Glory. Ephesians 4:11-12 KJV states, "And he gave some apostles; and some, prophets; and some, evangelists; and some, pastors and teachers; For the perfecting of the saints, for the work of the ministry, for edifying of the body of Christ:"
Theologians have different interpretations of The Parable of the Pearl or The Pearl of Great Price. One interpretation is that it illustrates the great value of the Kingdom of Heaven. Another interpretation is that the merchant represents Jesus, and the pearl represents the Christian Church. I would definitely agree with both of those interpretations.
May I submit to you that The Pearl of Great Price as it pertains to Christian Marriages refers to both husband and wife, but for the purpose of this post, we will focus on the Wives. Husbands, no worries, Chef has your back. He will speak to you next week.
The pearl itself is a beautiful, single entity, formed through suffering in the heart of the oyster that is normally put on display. Wives, as Pearls of Great Price, we know that this comes with great suffering and at times it is difficult to conceal our emotions and reactions to it. Someone summoned up enough courage to ask me why was I so tough on side Baes and side Boos. I explained to them that Bae and Boo simply have no interest in ever becoming a Pearl of Great Price. They want all the benefits and perks of being a Wife or a Husband, but they don't want to pay the cost. Fake pearls can be made to look like more expensive pearls, but they are made up of glass, ceramic, shell or plastic. This bead or fragment is then coated with a varnish or some other material that simulates a pearl-like luster and false iridescence. They are manufactured by humans to fool the human eye.
After all, being a Pearl of Great Price comes with an extensive job description. A Pearl of Great Price hours of operations are from sunup to sundown. A Pearl of Great Price often has to work in the house, on their regular nine to five and work in the Ministry. A Pearl of Great Price sits through hospital stays, aftercare stays and often assumes the role as Caregiver for everyone but herself. A Pearl of Great Price is there when times are bad and when times are good. A Pearl of Great Price is there when there is no money and is there when the money is rolling in. A Pearl of Great Price is there through baby mama drama. A Pearl of Great Price is there when "Sister Too Loose n' Tight" is there trying to low key holla at their Husband, saying, "Not today devil!"
A Pearl of Great Price is there after the sermon is over to comfort and strengthen her Husband who is in pain and exhausted from pouring out all that God has poured into him to give to His people. A Pearl of Great Price is never "out of service." A Pearl of Great Price would never withhold sexual intimacy from their Husband for days, weeks or months on end and still send them on the front lines of Ministry frustrated and vulnerable to the devices of Fake Pearls or Beads laying in wait for any sign of weakness. Then brag about it to their Fake Friends. Like when God was handing out Va-jay-jays, you were the only one who got one. Oh we are going to talk about this on today. STOP it. Stop pretending this isn't happening or hasn't happened. Do you think ignoring it, is going to make it go away? Then you are not A Pearl of Great Price.
The Parable of the Pearl is demonstrating to us the cost to enter the Kingdom of Heaven. It is demonstrating the lengths that Jesus went through to put us into a position where all our sins would be forgiven and we would now have access to eternal life. God so loved us that He sent His Only Begotten Son down from Heaven to save us from eternal damnation. He showed us what to do with A Pearl of Great Price and just how much it will cost. The question is, "Are you willing to pay the cost, which is everything, to be A Pearl of Great Price?" Or "Are you going to join the ranks of Fake Pearls or Beads that are manufactured by humans to fool the human eye?
Ministry is bigger than you and I. In fact it's not even about us. It's all about Jesus. It's all about saving lost souls. It's about paying the cost for The Pearl of Great Price.
The Chef and The Ref, as we are more affectionately called, are just two individuals who God joined together in the Spirit and then in the Natural to walk through the challenges of life together. We have been married for 27 years and have four amazing children. We get many calls, text and emails asking us questions about a variety of topics as it relates to marriage. This blog was inspired by the Holy Spirit and an answer to the growing demand of couples who inquire about our experiences in marriage as it relates to their own. We do not make any claims of being anything more than two sinners, saved by grace who wanted to give couples an opportunity to have safe conversations that will make their marriage stronger. The Chef and The Ref are both licensed and ordained Ministers in the Gospel of Jesus Christ who wanted to create a safe platform for married couples to converse about a variety of topics.