James 5:16 KJV - "Confess your faults one to another, and pray one for another, that ye may be healed. The effectual fervent prayer of a righteous man availeth much."
"Confess our faults one to another." Many times are testimony turns into a confession. As humans, we feel confession is vindication for our past mistakes. Often times, our confessions turn into "spilling the tea sessions." "Spilling the tea" is an African American colloquialism that simply means, "gossip." These type of sessions gives your haters the necessary receipts needed to either destroy you or make your life a living nightmare. At no point in your Christian walk do you ever want to give your enemies ammunition to say, "See, I told you so."
Confession is a formal statement admitting that one is guilty of a crime; an admission or acknowledgment that one has done something that one is ashamed or embarrassed about. Testimony is a public recounting of a religious conversion or experience. The older Saints use to say, "God has done so much for me, I couldn't tell it all." Recounting the goodness of Jesus is a perfect example of a testimony. It edifies the Body of Christ which is spreading the Good News.
The Bible says in Revelation 12:11 KJV, "And they overcame him by the blood of the Lamb, and by the word of their testimony; and they loved not their lives unto the death." Anytime you hear the word testimony, one thinks about Court, Lawyers, Prosecutors and Judges. Ironically, that is exactly what it is. Satan is the "Great Accuser" (The Prosecutor) roaming to and fro seeking whom he may devour. He comes before the Throne of God (The Only Righteous Judge), with receipts to discredit your testimony. He pleads a case from a confessional standpoint to recall all of the things Jesus Christ (The Lawyer in a Courtroom) died on the cross for. Jesus has already came to our defense, over two thousand years ago. So any receipts that satan attempts to present is thrown out of court because it is consider inadmissible evidence to The Lord.
Testimony is about how, even though we don't deserve it or haven't done anything to earn it, God still gives us grace and mercy. Jesus' love far exceeds anything that our mere mortal mind can conceive. That is what the devil is truly testing. Your testimony of Christ' unconditional love. Even if we had nothing at all, we have everything with Jesus. Confession is good and all, but Testimony of our relationship with Jesus is the ultimate Good News.
We are human and we have many faults and make a lot of mistakes. But, get over yourself and realize that it was just a mistake, except the consequences and move on. Confession does not build or edify The Body of Christ. It is designed for one to admit to a crime or immoral act they're embarrassed about and then be sentenced by a jury of one's peers. I don't know about you, I love my peers, but I only want God, The only Righteous Judge to hear my plea and hand down my sentence.
Bottom line, Confess to Jesus and Testify to men.
The Chef and The Ref, as we are more affectionately called, are just two individuals who God joined together in the Spirit and then in the Natural to walk through the challenges of life together. We have been married for 27 years and have four amazing children. We get many calls, text and emails asking us questions about a variety of topics as it relates to marriage. This blog was inspired by the Holy Spirit and an answer to the growing demand of couples who inquire about our experiences in marriage as it relates to their own. We do not make any claims of being anything more than two sinners, saved by grace who wanted to give couples an opportunity to have safe conversations that will make their marriage stronger. The Chef and The Ref are both licensed and ordained Ministers in the Gospel of Jesus Christ who wanted to create a safe platform for married couples to converse about a variety of topics.