Ecstasy... If you've never experienced Ecstasy during Intimacy with your own Husband, then you are truly missing out! I don't think people really understand the difference between Intimacy and Ecstasy. I am hopeful that this topic will bless many marriages because I believe that only a small percentage of married couples have had the unique and divine pleasure of this experience.
Rapture. Bliss. Elation. Euphoria. Joy. Jubilation. Exultation. A Trancelike state. These are all words used to describe the experience of Ecstasy during Intimacy. When you think about the act of Intimacy with your own Husband, what words come to mind? Is it just another thing to check off on your "To-Do List?" Is it something that you want to happen quick, fast and painless? Do you try and make up excuses as to why you don't want to enter into Intimacy with your own Husband? Do you try and use The Word of God as a means of justification as to why you don't think Intimacy with your own Husband should be a priority for you? Wives if you find yourself answering "yes" to any of these questions, you haven't experienced real Ecstasy.
Ecstasty takes Intimacy a step further. Mark 10:8 NIV states, "and the two will become one flesh. So they are no longer two, but one flesh." When the two become one flesh, you can feel one another's emotions. Your own Husband won't have to "ask" you to be Intimate with him because your bodies will feel one another without even touching. When he yearns for you, you yearn for him. It feels like a wave of heat that starts at the crown of your head and slowly moves down to the tip of your toes that you both feel simultaneously. It makes the anticipation of Intimacy more intense, more trancelike. And once you are in the act of Intimacy, your bodies are moving in a rhythmic dance. There are no words, only movement, passion, kisses and it's knowing what the other wants or likes without having to say one word.
When you are one flesh, you only have eyes for your own Husband. "Every Tom, Dick and Harry" don't matter. When you are one flesh, your so-called friends can't come between your Union by trying to convince you that it is better to "have your cake and eat it too." Keep listening to that type of advice and you and your cake will end up out on the curb, reduced down to misery. When you are one flesh, you don't "withhold" anything to make things more intense. It is a myth to make someone wait on purpose. "Withholding" only opens the door to infidelity. Intense does not mean Intimacy or Ecstasy, it's more like, shaking up a hot Coca Cola can and then opening it expecting not to make a mess. When you are one flesh, you don't change genitals like you change underwear. Ladies you've seen or maybe even had underwear that have Sunday, Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, Friday and Saturday on them. Why are you replacing the days of the week with the names of your part-time lovers? When you are one flesh, you don't swap Ecstasy for Intimacy because everyone loses. Ephesians 5:22 KJV states, "Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord." Stop being sex slaves with a marriage license being bought, sold and traded like our Forefathers and Foremothers. Your have limited yourselves to only experiencing Intimacy. You will never get the benefits of experiencing Ecstasy. God created Intimacy and Ecstasty between a Husband and his own Wife. Wives, do you really want these THOTS to become THOUGHTS like "faded pictures in a broken glass?" Then stop allowing them to take the Ecstasy out of the Intimacy with your own Husband.
We are a Spirit, that possesses a Soul that lives in a body. Intimacy is experienced with the body, anyone can do that. Ecstasty is experienced with not just the Body, but the Spirit and Soul as well. Intimacy is the Foundation of Ecstasy. For those Wives complaining about their Husband having ED. Is it really erectile dysfunction or is it an emotional disturbance? For those Wives complaining about the "brief" Intimacy encounters with their Husbands, Ecstasy extends that time considerably. We make time for everything, but each other. Consider this, are you one flesh expressing a level of Intimacy that ultimately leads to Ecstasy? If you don't feel Bliss, Elation, Jubilation or Express Intimacy with your own Husband until you both are in a Trancelike state, then the two have not truly become one flesh. You should try it with your own Husband! Ecstasy is an experience that is truly out of this world.
The Chef and The Ref, as we are more affectionately called, are just two individuals who God joined together in the Spirit and then in the Natural to walk through the challenges of life together. We have been married for 27 years and have four amazing children. We get many calls, text and emails asking us questions about a variety of topics as it relates to marriage. This blog was inspired by the Holy Spirit and an answer to the growing demand of couples who inquire about our experiences in marriage as it relates to their own. We do not make any claims of being anything more than two sinners, saved by grace who wanted to give couples an opportunity to have safe conversations that will make their marriage stronger. The Chef and The Ref are both licensed and ordained Ministers in the Gospel of Jesus Christ who wanted to create a safe platform for married couples to converse about a variety of topics.