It's been a while since Chef and I have reached out to you, but battles can be very distracting. I'm not sure why we were engaging in warfare in the first place? The battle is not ours, it's the Lord's. Sometimes The Lord will allow you to be in a holding pattern to capture your attention. There are so many lessons to be learned through observation.
Speaking of observation, trending is constant. When one topic stops trending, another one takes its place. Most people like to talk about the Popular Trends that usually involve the success or failure of something or someone else. In the category of Marriage, there is a Trending Topic that most people ignore. It's a ugly flaw that has been silently accepted over a long period of time. After all, "Who gone check me Boo?" An intrical part of Leadership is having a system of checks and balances. If there isn't one, people tend to make up there own rules and consequences. Since our last Post, many couples have reached out to thank us for addressing the issue of "Blackmailers." It has redefined, redirected and renewed a lot of marital relationships. In typical "Blackmailer" fashion, they will move on and find another unsuspecting victim instead of using it as an opportunity to become self-sufficient. But...back to the Trending Topic in Marriages this week, "Cookies and Milk."
Chocolate Chip, Oatmeal, Peanut Butter, Snicker Doodles, Lemon and Sugar. There are so many different varieties of cookies in this world. Every person has their favorite and typically, cookies are paired with a tall, cold glass of milk. Cookies are made in batches by the dozen. If you're really fancy, a Bakers Dozen which has thirteen cookies instead of twelve. Ref, "what does cookies have to do with marriage?" I am so glad you asked.
The Trend is Bakers who have gone from having their own Bakery and marketing their cookies in such a way that will attract High-End Patrons who are willing to pay the price for their products, to giving them away for speaking engagements, job promotions, all types of advancements and bragging rights. We can't for the life of us, understand "Why?????????" Why would you go through all the trouble of going to the store, shopping for just the right ingredients, spending all that money on the best quality ingredients, make the cookies and then give them away to any and all "Cookie Monsters" who give you a second look?
Have you ever watched a "Cookie Monster" in action? They start off taste testing one of each type of cookie because to them, all cookies are important. CM can tell you about the flavors, textures and what makes each cookie special. Then suddenly, CM becomes uncontrollable, gluttoness, messy and starts eating every cookie until they are gone. Why? Because all of the cookies are important. Maybe that's why Bakers have started to give their cookies away? Bakers want to feel needed, desired and important, even if it's only for one night.
Did you know that CM brags about the cookies? CM describes all "Cookie Encounters" in great detail. CM also doubles as a Food Critic after sampling all the important cookies. Scores are given for taste, texture, smell, sight, timing and then averaged for an overall score for Experience. So before the Baker could get another batch ready, future Patrons have already read the reviews and determined from someone else's experience, whether or not they would like to visit that particular Bakery.
And you wondered why you've had a sudden influx of customers and how they knew what to order before ever seeing the menu? Only problem with the increase in business, is that you will never make a profit. Why? Because you are giving them away for free. You are buying all the supplies, doing all the work and will never see the fruit of your labor. Even if you are stealing business from other Bakeries, you will never make a profit because you are stealing the fruit of someone else's labor. Remember All cookies are important to CM and as the saying goes, "Why buy the cow if you can get the milk for free?"
The Chef and The Ref, as we are more affectionately called, are just two individuals who God joined together in the Spirit and then in the Natural to walk through the challenges of life together. We have been married for 27 years and have four amazing children. We get many calls, text and emails asking us questions about a variety of topics as it relates to marriage. This blog was inspired by the Holy Spirit and an answer to the growing demand of couples who inquire about our experiences in marriage as it relates to their own. We do not make any claims of being anything more than two sinners, saved by grace who wanted to give couples an opportunity to have safe conversations that will make their marriage stronger. The Chef and The Ref are both licensed and ordained Ministers in the Gospel of Jesus Christ who wanted to create a safe platform for married couples to converse about a variety of topics.