A couple of days ago, My Wife called me on the phone and before I could utter a word, she asked me, "Where Are You?" It was a rhetorical question because I had told her my plans for the day and I knew part of my plans was to take care of her "Honey Do List."
Then I started thinking about when God, ( Jehovah Bara - Lord Creator) who is All-Knowing asked Adam, "Where was He?" I became intrigued. Didn't God know where Adam was and what was going on? Or was it a rhetorical question? Then it came to me, God wasn't asking Adam the question because He wanted an answer or didn't know the answer. I believe He asked the question so that Adam could ask himself that question. Somewhere along the way, Adam lost himself. And in losing himself, he lost certain priviledges and promises right along with it. The even bigger question is, "Was it worth it?" If you've ever lost yourself, that is a question only you could answer.
In marriages, we have times when the Spouse knows our every move. Call it routine or just plain habit, but when you have a certain way or method of doing things, your lifestyle becomes predictable. It’s when we break that routine that our Spouse can tell something is wrong.
After a period of time, altering routines in any way sends up a red flag. Anytime you step out of your normal, it raises questions. “Where are you?” “What are you doing?” “And is everything ok?” These types of questions need answers. Answers that you attempt to give but somehow seem to fail at being clear about. My Grandmother use to say that, “wrong is always chasing you, but right will follow.” When you do something wrong The Spirit will convict you and you will find yourself trying to make things right again. Lies and deception only closes the window of blessings that God will open for you if and when you do His Will. There are conditions associated with promises. Abide by those conditions and receive the promise. If you don't, you will only expose yourself and receive the consequences of your disobedience just like Adam.
I had a friend that couldn’t understand how his Wife always knew when he was sneaking off to the strip clubs. I told him that the whole time he spent trying to cover up everything, he failed to see the obvious. You know… money disappearing out of their bank account, coming home with perfume on his clothes and neglecting his Wife and Children. So that’s why the question, “Where are you?” is rhetorical. His Wife knew exactly where he was the entire time. God is married to the "Backslider" and knows exactly "where he or she is" just as He knew exactly where Adam was in the Garden.
When God asked Adam, “Where art thou?” Adam knew that by eating the fruit from the Tree of The Knowledge of Good and Evil he was acting in disobedience to God. After all, God gave that commandment to Adam. The spirit within Adam convicted him and caused him to hide. Like when you know you are doing something that isn’t right. You are convicted in your spirit and the next thing you know, you are trying to hide or cover up your wrongs.
So ask yourself the Question, “Where art thou?” "Where am I in regards to my relationship with God, my Marriage and my Family?" The Spirit is always crystal clear. It is the Spirit of Truth. And the Truth will not only set you free, but it will make you free. And who The Son set free, He's free indeed.
The Chef and The Ref, as we are more affectionately called, are just two individuals who God joined together in the Spirit and then in the Natural to walk through the challenges of life together. We have been married for 27 years and have four amazing children. We get many calls, text and emails asking us questions about a variety of topics as it relates to marriage. This blog was inspired by the Holy Spirit and an answer to the growing demand of couples who inquire about our experiences in marriage as it relates to their own. We do not make any claims of being anything more than two sinners, saved by grace who wanted to give couples an opportunity to have safe conversations that will make their marriage stronger. The Chef and The Ref are both licensed and ordained Ministers in the Gospel of Jesus Christ who wanted to create a safe platform for married couples to converse about a variety of topics.