Mark 3:25 KJV states, "And if a house be divided against itself, that house cannot stand."
I was just sitting here thinking about houses and the wide variety of construction of houses. In my lifetime of almost 45 years, I have seen some pretty raggedy, run down houses and some pretty stunning ones. I'm sure we've all seen the ones that look immaculant from the outside and then you go in and the mess makes you want to vomit. This is a luxury item, that so many people place so much emphasis on yet sometimes take for granted.
Chef and I had a house once. I was so excited. After all, that's what most Parents who are trying to provide a better life for their children do. They work hard to aquire things that they think would make their family as a whole better. I can remember looking at the new Subdivision and the layouts of the streets. There was nothing but cows and open grassy fields before the construction started. I remember picking my house from a floor plan. They didn't have a model built for us to tour, so I studied the models to see which one had everything I ever thought I wanted in a house. I wish you could have seen it. It had five bedrooms, four and a half bathrooms, two family rooms and a back porch we could sit on and watch our children play until the sun set. It was the place where I thought we could raise our children in, entertain people we love and just be "normal" for a change. And then one day, it all fell apart...so I thought.
Often we pray and ask The Lord for things we think will make our lives much better, for whatever reason. Some times He allows us to operate in His Permissive will instead of His Decreed will. Sort of like when Parents give their children or child permission to do something, knowing that they will have to be the ones to come to their rescue but the Lesson turns out to be the Blessing. My Bishop has been teaching a series that makes you go back and take a second look at the scriptures. In Genesis 50:20 KJV, God allowed Joseph's brothers to betray him, and to deceive their father, so that He might bring the Israelites (few in number) to Egypt, where God would spare them, and they would greatly multiply. I didn't realize it at the time, but it was God's Decreed will for me to suffer the loss of that house. After it was all over, I was left in such a state of gratitude because I realized He was keeping me and my family from dangers both seen and unseen. The devil tried to use the one thing that I thought would make our family complete to almost destroy us all. But God in His Infinite Wisdom, All-knowing, All-seeing Diety, did not grant him permission to allow that to happen. And for that, I am forever grateful, humbled and thankful to Him.
In marriage, a house divided against itself will not stand. You and your Spouse must be on one accord. And the only way that could happen, is for you to cover your house with the Word of God and the Blood of Jesus. No amount or type of man-made materials are strong enough to weather the storms of this life. The storms of this life are so cold, that sometimes you can't even trust your own family. That's why I believe Jesus said in Matthew 12:50 KJV, "For whosoever shall do the will of my Father which is in heaven, the same is my brother, and sister, and mother." It's sad, but it's true. Only trusting in The Lord and submitting to His Decreed will and plan for your lives will keep your house covered.
Division is defined as the disagreement between two or more groups, typically producing tension or hostility. Check your roofing materials to see what is producing tension or hositility in your house. Is it so important that you would exist miserably in His Permissive will instead of living in His Decreed will? Are you strong enough to take a loss and keep on moving together as a Family Unit? Will you both look to Jesus who is the Author and Finisher of Your Faith to see you through loss, even when you don't understand it? Sometimes to lose is to gain. Philippians 3:7 KJV says, "But what things were gain to me, those I counted loss for Christ." What I have gained from my loss is so much more...it's my opportunity to fulfill my Destiny.
In the end, I have my life and the life of my family. That's all that really matters to me. The house is not in the brick and mortar, it's inside of you and you carry it with you wherever you go. And if I never get another house in this life, I am confident that I have a house, not built by the hands of man. It was built by the Carpenter who just happens to be the Potter. Who just happens to be the Prince of Peace, the Holy One, Son of the Living God, Alpha and Omega, the Beginning and the End, the Rose of Sharon, the Bright and Morning Star, the Lily of the Valley, the One that everything He made was not only Good, but it was Very Good. To coin a phrase, "Come on somebody!!"
So I would like to encourage you and your house to stand united together because a house divided against itself, cannot stand. Remember sometimes to lose is to gain...Your Destiny depends on it.
The Chef and The Ref, as we are more affectionately called, are just two individuals who God joined together in the Spirit and then in the Natural to walk through the challenges of life together. We have been married for 27 years and have four amazing children. We get many calls, text and emails asking us questions about a variety of topics as it relates to marriage. This blog was inspired by the Holy Spirit and an answer to the growing demand of couples who inquire about our experiences in marriage as it relates to their own. We do not make any claims of being anything more than two sinners, saved by grace who wanted to give couples an opportunity to have safe conversations that will make their marriage stronger. The Chef and The Ref are both licensed and ordained Ministers in the Gospel of Jesus Christ who wanted to create a safe platform for married couples to converse about a variety of topics.