Relationship Series: 8 Stages of A Relationship Stage Three - Copulation vs. Marital Intimacy: "Husb
Copulation or sexual intimacy. When you ask someone who is not a Believer about sex, they will go into all sorts of scientific facts, Kamasutra, emotional and physical beliefs of what is the common meaning of intercourse. From personal experiences to what the media says, you'll hear many different interpretations.
When you ask a Christian their view or what's the meaning of sex, they will give you Biblical facts or say what they believe is the right or wrong way, (which is commonly missionary), and what Grandma told them what sex should be like. The streets will give you all sorts of pornographic views which usually means, if it feels good and who it feels good with, then do it, even if it's experimental.
Let's take the covers back and expose the truth of intercourse. When you have sex with a person, you are giving yourself wholly to that individual, Body, Soul and Spirit. And as an added bonus, every Spiritual and Physical baggage that comes with them. For instance, everything that your partner is and has (sexually transmission) and every Unhoused Spirit they have and the same baggage that everyone they have been with, Mentioned or Secret comes to the sexual party. Have you ever wondered why certain things occur that you can't explain and has never been in your family's DNA happen? Or images that you seem not to be able to get rid of? No one is going to tell you that the last person they slept with was crazy, but the sex was good. No one and I mean No one is thinking Spiritual Before, During or After sex. And I have learned, that's where the "Big Mistake" is made.
Instead of discussing past experiences while dating, it becomes lost until something comes up that you have no other choice but to discuss. We concentrate more on the act than the ramifications of before and after. Most of the time, we are concentrating on the outward appearances more than the truth that is right in front of us. The fineness on the outside overshadows the monster on the inside. I remember I was given a knife set. The box had a nice picture of the knives and their many uses, but when I opened the box, the knives were dull, flimsy and upon my first use, one of them broke. When I told the person that gave me the gift, they revealed that the knives were actually re-gifted from someone else who got them from a rummage sale four years earlier. All they did was put more tape to seal the box and it was sold AS IS. No telling how many people used those knives before I got them. No one really knew.
Sex is a very precious thing. Although we all make mistakes, we can rectify them by doing a Spiritual Overhaul. A Spiritual Overhaul is totally allowing God to order our footsteps even who we choose as our mates. He knows the battles we will face and He has the Ultimate Strategy on how to win.
Lastly, remember this: 1+1=2 . In order for it to remain 2, don't bring another one in, it has a negative affect on relationships. When you start a relationship off with a negative, only God can change it into a positive. Sexual intimacy is always BEST when it is with your Own Spouse.
The Chef and The Ref, as we are more affectionately called, are just two individuals who God joined together in the Spirit and then in the Natural to walk through the challenges of life together. We have been married for 27 years and have four amazing children. We get many calls, text and emails asking us questions about a variety of topics as it relates to marriage. This blog was inspired by the Holy Spirit and an answer to the growing demand of couples who inquire about our experiences in marriage as it relates to their own. We do not make any claims of being anything more than two sinners, saved by grace who wanted to give couples an opportunity to have safe conversations that will make their marriage stronger. The Chef and The Ref are both licensed and ordained Ministers in the Gospel of Jesus Christ who wanted to create a safe platform for married couples to converse about a variety of topics.