Copulation is simply defined as sexual intercourse. In further research of the meaning of copulation, its meaning is usually applied to the mating process in nonhuman animals or the transfer of the sperm from male to female. Truth be told, I have friends who have described their experiences as, "a transfer of sperm from a nonhuman animal." I guess that's where they get the phrase, "If you lie down with dogs, you're bound to get up with fleas." I wonder if people knew the true meaning of the word, not the definition, would they still confuse sex with intimacy? We've told you before, there is a difference between sexual intercourse or copulation and marital intimacy.
Transparency Moment: Wife to Wife, we already know before our feet hit the floor in the morning to start our day, whether or not we are going to have sex or intimacy with our Husband. I saw a quote by Dr. Farrah Gray that said, "If her bra and panties match, you were not the one who decided you were going to have sex." And I know that every woman that read that, giggled because they knew it was the gospel truth. In my opinion, women in general are planners. We plan what our week is going to look like, down to the millisecond and yes, we even plan out where, when and how we would like to have relations with our Husband. Bottom line.
We have gotten so many questions about what does the Bible say about sex or marital intimacy? The Bible is one of the most widely read books that is filled with instances of sexual experiences. Reality TV? Nah, pick up the Word of God. It seems to me that people want an excuse or permission from someone or something to indulge in whatever pleasures that tickle their fancy. The Bible does not clearly define what is or what is not permissible between a Husband and Wife in relationship to sexual intercourse or marital intimacy. So stop looking for permission from Clergy or other people and start communicating with one another. Whatever pleasures you desire from one another, must be mutually agreed upon. Of course we all know what is considered Abominations or Perverse Sexuality as it pertains to the Bible, Leviticus 18:1-30.
Transparency Moment: Wife to Wife, One of my very best friends told me something that changed my outlook and trajectory regarding sexual intimacy with my husband, and it is the gospel truth. She said, "Keisha, what you won't do to, with and for Your Husband, there are at least 50 other women who will." And now I pass her advice on to you. Growing up in the church, especially as a Preacher's Kid is tough. Everything is "nasty" or "of the devil." But Sister "Skittles" over there, is pregnant every year for 9 years straight. The subject of sexual intimacy with your husband was a topic that Auntie and 'Nem, never even spoke about. After all, that was grown folks business. We were basically left to figure it out for ourselves. Well after 26 years of marriage, I've got it figured out, but I'm going to need you Ladies not to take that long. Communicate, Explore, Have Sexual Intimacy with Your Husband, so that you both can live "Happily ever after...Together."
The Chef and The Ref, as we are more affectionately called, are just two individuals who God joined together in the Spirit and then in the Natural to walk through the challenges of life together. We have been married for 27 years and have four amazing children. We get many calls, text and emails asking us questions about a variety of topics as it relates to marriage. This blog was inspired by the Holy Spirit and an answer to the growing demand of couples who inquire about our experiences in marriage as it relates to their own. We do not make any claims of being anything more than two sinners, saved by grace who wanted to give couples an opportunity to have safe conversations that will make their marriage stronger. The Chef and The Ref are both licensed and ordained Ministers in the Gospel of Jesus Christ who wanted to create a safe platform for married couples to converse about a variety of topics.