Flirtation is something that all of us have dabbled with at one time or another. You’re sitting in class, and the popular guy comes in and the girls all sigh. He looks at you and you kind tilt your head to the side, give him a slight smile and flip your hair. Or the Brother with the nice suit is sitting on the pew at church and you rush to sit next to him, you make eye contact, both smile and you slide by him and accidentally on purpose put your assets in his face. After all, it’s harmless right? Well unfortunately there are still instances of people flirting even after they get married, saved, sanctified and filled with the Holy Spirit. After all, it’s harmless right? For some, the Holiness is having a constant battle with the Hoe in you. For others, the Righteousness is having a constant battle with the Ratchet in you.
In case you were wondering, according to www.urbandictionary.com, the definition of ratchet is “A diva, mostly from urban cities and ghettos that has reason to believe she’s every man’s eye candy. Unfortunately, she’s wrong.” We’re no respecter of person, there are some men out there who feel the same way towards women. Unfortunately, their wrong also. How many times have you been wrong?
Flirtation is defined as behavior that demonstrates a playful sexual attraction to someone, a short or casual relationship or a short period of casual experimentation with or interest in a particular idea or activity. When I think of Flirtation, the image of the cartoon of the boy teasing the lion in the cage comes to mind. The more the commentator told the little boy not to tease the lion, the more he did it. Until finally, the lion ate the little boy.
The world tells us that flirting is fun, but harmless. Now and days, singles and married people flirt with one another. Oh, it’s harmless, but for every action, there is a reaction that is either good, bad or harmless. Yes, even harmless. Every action starts with a thought. Thoughts bring images and images bring the willingness to take risk. “Hmm…Will I get away with it?” is the thought that resonates in one’s head. The fantasy becomes a reality, and now…
The devil creeps in subtly. The cost far outweighs the risk. The craziest thing is that we don’t just flirt with each other, but we also flirt with our Destiny, Dangers and Diseases. Sometimes risk pay off, but Ungodly risk will cost you everything. The chorus in the song the Gambler by Kenny Rodgers says, “You got to know when hold ‘em, know when to fold ‘em, know when to walk away, know when to run. You never count your money when sittin’ at the table there’ll be time enough for counting, when dealings done.”
Our relationships are most fun when we flirt with our Spouses. At the end of it all, the only risk is more of each other’s company. So when flirtation occurs between married couples, it’s fun appreciation or “Peek-A-Boo! I see you!” No matter what, everyone likes to be appreciated. Don’t stop flirting with your Spouse. As you know, the grass is not greener on the other side. And playtime with your Spouse increases positivity and kills off the very appearance of evil. Believe it or not, when the two are in agreement, no male or female THOT will have a prayer of breaking up a Happy Home.
David flirted with his Destiny with Bathsheba and it almost cost him his full Destiny. Every relationship takes Work, Time, Blood, Sweat and Tears. But it works together for the good. Flirtation is teasing, but at the end of the day, I would rather have a sure thing than a thought. It happens in all of our lives, but it’s how we handle it that dictates the outcome.
The Chef and The Ref, as we are more affectionately called, are just two individuals who God joined together in the Spirit and then in the Natural to walk through the challenges of life together. We have been married for 27 years and have four amazing children. We get many calls, text and emails asking us questions about a variety of topics as it relates to marriage. This blog was inspired by the Holy Spirit and an answer to the growing demand of couples who inquire about our experiences in marriage as it relates to their own. We do not make any claims of being anything more than two sinners, saved by grace who wanted to give couples an opportunity to have safe conversations that will make their marriage stronger. The Chef and The Ref are both licensed and ordained Ministers in the Gospel of Jesus Christ who wanted to create a safe platform for married couples to converse about a variety of topics.